My Russian online dating story: American prince turned into a frog

Hello Krystyna!

My name is Jana. I would like to write you my real love story with an American man who is still ongoing and it is unknown how it will end… So I need an advice because I am scared to get into a bad situation.

Three months ago, I met an American man on an online dating site www.holostyak.ru. I was immediately attracted to his beautiful face, big brown eyes and a lot of pictures with his dog. I was wondering why such a handsome man is looking for a Ukrainian / Russian woman online.

I wrote the first message about his dog to him, and he replied almost immediately. He liked my photos because I was a former photo model and long lived in America. We started to communicate with each other and wrote to each other daily. After the third day, I realized that I found my dream man and remove my profile from this online dating site. He gave me his Skype name and sent me detailed information about him, namely: he is a lawyer and has his office in Santa Monica. That means for me he is a real guy! 🙂

I sent a touching letter to him that I remove my profile from the site because I want to be only with him. And he is my dream, and so on. I wrote to him that I want to move to California to live and buy a house for our family. The man said he is shocked by these words. I was going crazy about him… 😉

But the man was seriously interested in my apartment in Moscow I wanted to sell. He asked how much it costs. Then, he began to send me different offers on houses (from $500,000 to $1 million) daily… When I asked him why he sent me such expensive homes, he said that this is the best investment and he wants to live in a house with a view of the ocean. A good wish, isn’t it?? 🙂

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He called me every day and spoke only of property. I’m madly in love with him just because he is handsome. He also told me that I am beautiful and he wants have kids with me. He said he was married to a Russian woman from Saint Petersburg; but she was a bitch and a fraud, he paid for her medical university. But she met another man and got married to him.

While he says that he is a successful lawyer and has an apartment in Paris and a house in the mountains of California, he dreams to sell my apartment in Moscow and buy a house in the United States. I generally do not understand his words.

I just recently scored his name into Google and found out that he is registered on Vkontakte.ru and have a lot of contacts with girls from Ukraine, Belarus and Moldova.

I’m shocked…. Besides, I found out that his native language is Farsi; in other words, he is from Iraq or Iran (not native American).

I do not know what I have to do further. I am in love, but I do not trust him anymore… 🙁

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Krystyna

Krystyna

Krystyna is a Ukrainian woman who blogs about dating Ukrainian & Russian women and how to deal with intercultural differences in a Ukrainian/Russian-Western relationship.

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6 Responses

  1. LANCASTER DODD says:

    The guy is a typical West Side L.A. creep. He is into money. He doesn’t care about women except as an accessory. If you like that sort of thing, keep going. If not, unplug. There are LOTS more fish in THAT sea.

  2. Lena says:

    The whole situation seems pretty weird. If he’s lying about things, it’s better you look for another guy instead, there are lots of real American guys who are really sweet and wouldn’t think twice about dating an exotic beauty like you.

    DO NOT sell your apartment, you could end up in a very nasty situation. I know you’re already sentimentally invested, but it’s better to leave this situation now before it’s too late. Interpals.net is a nice website to meet friends and who knows, maybe even the love of your life.

    I think it’s better to go for a save environment like that where you can be friends first and the move unto something else. Good luck!

  3. Jane says:

    Jana, wake up to reality!! He is Arab. Have you checked his home/work adress in the US? There are lots of websites which help you find all the information about American citizens online. Use this chance.

    Based on your story above I doubt much that he actually lives in America..A rich man having his property here and there all over the world wouldn’t ask his date to sell her only one apartment and buy him a house for that money..

    I don’t want to pigeonhole Arabs, but it’s been proven by a numerous number of Ukraninan and Russian women that Arabs are the greatest liars in the world. They only believe and cherish their only women (in most cases) and respect them for sharing the same religion. To where Christians aren’t even people to a lot of them. So they come over to Ukraine, Russia, make women fall in love with them by giving sweet compliments and treating them like women should be treated, then make a baby and leave for good. Or in another cases Slavic women discover that their beloved Arabs are married and have wives at home waiting for them. Or the 3rd variation. They get married and he brings her to his country where she has to give up being Christian and take Islam instead. All his family including himself treats her like a slave, like a worthless being abusing whenever it’s possible.

    I am sorry dear Arabs, no offense to you. There are very good people among you too. But talking about Arabic guys here in Ukraine, from 100 lovestories between local Ukranian girls and Arabic guys, 97 end up the way I’ve descrived above, and only 3 turn to be happy and genuine.

    So Jana please open your eyes, and don’t be an idiot!

  4. Ghilant says:

    Staying on dating sites was never safe for too naïf people. Girls just like guys should be very careful while dating someone from internet. The most important rule for everyone who is using dating sites never to send money for any means. I was staying already on numerous dating sites and so heard lots of stories from girls and guys begging for money, telling desperate stories of their life. And at some point I almost sent money but then my friends helped me to understand on time.

    • William says:

      Big mistake is falling in love with your eyes.

      I think it is a Russian saying, ” you fell in love with your eyes and now are suffering from your drunkenness.”

      No criticism, men are much worse… speak from my own experience.

      Regards

      G

  5. Lora says:

    Hey, marvelous russian beauty!

    Please be careful. Before you know it – you may get into a very disaterous situation. You don’t actually KNOW THIS GUY!

    Dreaming of a Prince Charming – has a ton of girls like you fooled.

    Do not go there. I’ve been married to a better guy , then got divorced in 10 years,
    after I realized he’s after the good wife & a lot of money he can safe for himself.

    I don’t know even 1 american who won’t think about $$$ 1-st & about you, cause of sex. THINK many times.

    You will be deprived, not knowing your rites, no citizenship, all UNDER HIM – fully dependent & having no voice.

    The 1-st thing is THINK : MENTALITY – DO NOT GO FOR A FOREIGN MENTALITY, IT’S HARD TO LIVE WITH.

    IF i WERE YOU i WOULD LOOK FOR THE GOOD RUSSIAN MAN ( if you get that )-
    living abroad, if you think your place isn’t good enough.

    Be smart – there’s no GREENER GRASS out HERE – you just DON’t KNOW ANY BETTER & everything is been CRAZILY MARKETED. DON’T BUY THIS

    ВЕЗДЕ СВОИ ПРОБЛЕМЫ – спроси себя : ЗАЧЕМ ТЕБЕ ЧУЖИЕ.

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