Is It Possible to Recognize Ukrainian Dating Scam?
Editor: Krystyna, founder of Ukrainian Dating Blog & Ukrainian Dating Stories and speaker at the iDate conference. On this blog she shares her knowledge and experiences with international dating and intercultural relationship. Read more
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One month ago, I met a girl on the single baltic site. She is quoted as 100 percent reliable. She is Doctor (Pediatrician) in a hospital.
I have very good feelings with this girl and we seem to share a lot of things and have common points despite other girls I met on this site.
Our story started on dating site
I got her email address and now we are talking by email for about one week. I also received her name I checked that she has a Facebook profile wich fully correspond to her so she seems to be a moreless real person. She also have girl friends married to people in Holland on her profile which could explain why she would be interested in coming here. The problem is that she cannot read and write English at all which was a big surprise for me since I could not imagine that an educated person as a Doctor could not know one word of English, is it common in Ukraine (I am from Belgium) ?
So we start communicating in Russian by using an automatic translator.
The last email I received was:
Привет мой милый!!!! прости что вчера написала тебе так поздно, замоталась по работе, но постоянно о тебе думала!! ты мое солнышко!! и когда я думаю о тебе и что мои чувства взаимны – нет счастливей человека на свете чем я!!! просто знай это!!!
милый мне так приятно что ты готов выучить язык ради меня – только ради меня – мне так приятно!!! ты себе даже не представляешь!! читая твое письмо я всегда улыбаюсь! и даже сейчас когда пишу тебе свое письмо!)))
милый мне приятно что ты хочешь поддержать меня с курсами английского, я узнаю какие курсы есть у меня в городе и напишу тебе в следующем письме подробно о них, хорошо? и мы с тобой вместе решим что мы будем делать, хорошо любимый?
если говорить о животном, я думаю что ты или белый орел, или дельфин – белый орел очень свободолюбивая птица нов то же время верная и целеустремленная. а если дельфин – то ты любишь близких тебе людей и ты очень дружелюбный. кем ты хочешь быть больше?)))))))))
милый, я желаю тебе хорошего дня!!! надеюсь скоро услышать от тебя!! Поцелуй за меня Джессику и крепко обними!!
шлю тебе мои самые сладкие поцелуи!!
твоя голубка Лена
Translation into English:
Hello my dear!! sorry that yesterday I wrote to you so late, I had so much work, but I was constantly thinking about you! you are my sunshine! and when I think about you and that my feelings are mutual – there is no happier person in the world than I am! You should just know it!
Dear, I am so pleased that you wish to learn the Russian language for me – just for me – I’m so pleased! You currently have no idea about my feelings! Reading your letter, I always smile! and even now when I write my letter to you!)))
My dear, I am pleased that you want to support me with English classes, I will find out what classes I have in my town and I’ll write you a letter with all the details about them, okay? and we’ll decide together what we will do, sll right, darling?
If we are talking about an animal, I think that You are or a white eagle, or dolphin. White Eagle is a bird which is loving freedom but at the same time this bird is loyal and dedicated. And if you are the dolphin, that means that you love to be close to people and you are very friendly. Who do you want to be more?)))))))))
dear, I wish you good day! I hope soon to hear from you! A kiss for Jessica from me and tightly hug!
I send you my sweetest kisses!
Your darling Lena
How to understand Ukrainian mentality
So I guess she will soon request me to send her some money to learn English. Otherwise she would not request my agreement. I am very surprised that a woman would ask me my agreement to study or do something, this is not the way it goes in my country. Here, women do not ask agreements to the men for that.
Since she is 30 years old without children, very beautiful and that I am 42 years old with one child, I am really wondering if she will not try to scam me. I do not know the mentality of Ukrainian girls but I know that here a girl like this would never show any interest in me.
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I hope its not a scam
It is very difficult for me to have my own idea since I had a lot of deep talks with this woman and she seems to be very interested in my life, daughter, personality, feelings … and never talked me about money till now excepting to know if she could get a good salary as pediatrician here in Belgium.
May I ask your opinion about it?
First I would like to say you thank you for sharing your experience.
To your questions:
- The problem is that she cannot read and write English at all which was a big surprise for me since I could not imagine that an educated person as a Doctor could not know one word of English, is it common in Ukraine (I am from Belgium)
I would say it is common for Ukraine because the education system is different than in Europe. The students have no possibility to go to Europe to study there; thus the level of foreign language knowledge is very low. I know the Ukrainian medical students must learn Latin at the university. That is all. English is not necessary for them. English knowledge is a real problem in Ukraine and Russia.
The first sign of scam - she asked money!
- So I guess she will soon request me to send her some money to learn English. Otherwise she would not request my agreement. I am very surprised that a woman would ask me my agreement to study or do something, this is not the way it goes in my country. Here, women do not ask agreements to the men for that.
I made an online research how much doctors in Ukraine earn. I found out that pediatricians in Ukrainian hospitals earn about $150-200 per month, therefore the woman has no chance to pay for private language courses. Usually, the woman is waiting for an agreement to get money from a man for payment of her English classes. Did you talk to her about learning English? Because she writes that she is happy about that you want to support her in this thing. Or did she decided that you agree? I would advice you if you are not sure it is better to go to Ukraine first and meet your woman in person. It is simple to go to Ukraine for 2-4 days (you do not need a visa for Ukraine) and decide if this woman is a potential match for you or not. After that you can decide if you want to support her or not.
Ukrainian women are interested in older men
- Since she is 30 years old without children, very beautiful and that I am 42 years old with one child, I am really wondering if she will not try to scam me.
I do not know the mentality of Ukrainian girls but I know that here a girl like this would never show any interest in me.
Yes it is possible that Ukrainian women are interested to find an older man from abroad. The reason is that too many beautiful women in the same area leaves the men in their homelands very spoiled. As a result, many women in their 30’s and 40’s are less appealing than younger women. The men are aware that they can date or marry a woman much younger than their age group, so they do not try getting to know a woman who is their own age.
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How risky is looking for a man abroad
Women from the Ukraine or Russia who are in their 30s and 40s find it difficult to find a man in their home country who is nice, willing to settle down and will remain faithful after the marriage because temptation is rampant in their home country.
In my opinion, Ukrainian women turn to the Internet and look for love abroad as a result of the complications of finding a loyal partner at home. These women are not only loving and tender hearted, but they offer the comforts of home and experience of family life that many other women might not offer. Modern Ukrainian men might not want the responsibility of a family and only a few are willing to offer the love Ukrainian women are looking for. I know that Ukrainian women in their 30s and 40s are looking for a husband abroad who will love and cherish her, just as any woman hopes to find in her marriage. Taking a risk on a soulmate from abroad is worth it if she finds the man who will love her.
In final I would advice
to tell her that first you want to meet her in person and then you can support her because you are sure about her serious intentions. If she is interested in your personality (not in your money), she will understand that.
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