Today I talk to a pretty Ukrainian lady Ira who is a blogger and has gathered a lot of experience with communication with foreigners online. I am really very glad that Ira agreed to answer a couple of my questions.
Hello Ira, nice to meet you today! To get started, please tell my readers a little bit about yourself (where do you live?, how old are you?, what blogs do you have?).
Hello Krystyna. I live in Chernihiv, a historic city in northern Ukraine. I am 36 years old. I run several blogs. On my first blog, I tell my readers about Estonia from the migrants’ point of view. I cover topics on Estonia-Ukraine relations (cultural, social and political events), as well.
Furthermore, I have several blogs on photography and needlework. My blogs are in Russian. And recently, I decided to create a new blog in English so that people from other countries can read about events taking place in Ukraine.
You told me that you have a great experience with International online dating. Why did you decide to communicate with Western men? What were your intentions (just for communication or for a serious relationship)? What experience did you gain?
My experience with online dating is pretty huge. I started looking for a Western man when my female friend found an online dating agency. She wanted to find a foreign husband, too. Therefore, we corresponded with American men. That was in 2000. My friend finally married an Israeli and moved to Tel Aviv.
What can I say about online dating? I have experiences with dating Ukrainian men and foreign men. I could even write a book about my experience. I found out that there are very many strange and mentally ill people. But I am happy about the fact that there are also very nice people. Frankly, I was disappointed in Ukrainian men. They do not offer anything other than sex for one or two times.
Communication with foreigners gives me an opportunity for my personal development. I have learned a lot about other countries, cultures and needs of the people. I lived four years in Estonia where I had a great opportunity to communicate with students from different parts of the world. This changed my personality.
I have gained a lot of interesting and rich experiences through acquaintances with foreign men online. For example, not only European and American men are interested in Slavic women. Men from undeveloped countries such as Pakistan, the Philippines, Algeria, India, and others, want to marry our girls because they want to go from a poor home country. As for me, they consider Ukraine as a rich country.
Well, I would like to say the following words in order to answer the main question about what intentions I have when I use different online dating services. I’m looking for a strong and educational man without extravagances. In all probability, I’m looking for a happy medium to create my family and live together. I do not like alcoholics, idiots or boring intellectuals.
Most Russian and Ukrainian dating sites and matchmaking agencies say their male customers from the West that the majority of single Russian and Ukrainian ladies are looking for a man abroad because the men at home are alcoholics and women are not fully respected and abused. In my opinion, many Russian and Ukrainian ladies believe that men in the Western world have the potential to be better husbands and fathers than men in their region.
My next question to you is why, in your opinion, Russian and Ukrainian women are looking for Western men? What are the main reasons? Lack of “normal” men at home, search for a better life abroad or looking indeed for love?
In my opinion, definitely, lack of “normal” men in Russia and Ukraine. I can surely say that a lot of Russian and Ukrainian women are looking for a Western husband because our men are alcoholics and goldbrickers. Many women believe in a meeting with a foreign prince.
In my opinion, there are three reasons why Russian and Ukrainian women dream to find a man from abroad, namely: widespread poverty, inappropriate behavior and low culture of the majority of Russian and Ukrainian men as well as traditionally formed matriarchy.
Here is my explanation of these three reasons:
Ira, I read your article “How Ukrainian dating agencies work” about your job search and experience in arranging at an International marriage agency in Chernigov. Honestly, your experience sounds awful. Many Western men looking for a Russian or Ukrainian woman for life do not believe anymore in the fact that it is possible to meet a real woman with serious intentions through International online dating sites or marriage agencies.
What do you think about this fact? Do you guess it is still possible to meet a woman for life through a paid dating site or not?
I would like to mention one important fact that Western men looking for a Ukrainian woman through online dating sites need to know. There’s always a scam where a lot of money is involved. If a Western man decides to register on a paid Russian/Ukrainian dating site, he will be very probably scammed by this dating company. I’m sure that the International online dating works like that in Ukraine.
Nevertheless, I have a good example of a cross-cultural marriage when people actually met online and got married. My friend from Poland found a girl from South America. Now they live in Warsaw and have two children. Frankly, they met through a free online dating site.
Thank you very much, Ira, for answering my questions. 🙂
About the editor: Krystyna is the author of three dating ebooks, including ‘Krystyna’s lessons on successful dating Ukrainian ladies’ & ‘International Dating Digest For Men: Finding Love Overseas’. As the leading International Dating Expert and Dating Coach Krystyna is a consultant for many dating sites and is involved in a wide variety of different areas, such as personal dating coaching, online dating and matchmaking.
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